Saturday, January 16, 2010

Life Unplugged- 4

Hi Folks,

Basking in the sun in Delhi with cold waves swirling around coupled with my hot tea, I am back in action. Life has been a charismatic friend till now showing its various “Avatars”. Each time I think this is the fathom of life, I see people further down the barrel making me realize life is not that bad. The hope in the eyes of these troubled souls for some silver lining makes me feel more inspired.

Many times you are about to throw arms after putting every damn effort. You feel defeat is imminent. Relatives show back, near ones act as strangers, and adversity becomes the first word of life. Then some people turn up in life as angels (farishtas). (My dear friends, this is the point of inflection in life which tells us helping people in soup can come back positively.) I recently realized that the help one gets in one’s dire times comes from the people you haven’t even thought of. It makes me wonder whether telepathy with God is faster than light. So people, always have that extra little faith in life before giving up. You never know that may make your day.

People do say life is simple. But many giants have been dwarfed by this simplicity. There are no short cuts to your goals other than perseverance. Some may get lucky but in the long run your hard learning pays off. The level to which you stretch your stress-limit to get that extra punch determines which way your life is heading. Some feel this is the max what they can do and settle for mediocrity while some strive to shine by seeing tasks to end. This segment of humans become the front runners. No matter from where do you start the lap, the motto is to cruise. But some take it as a race and in short take away the grace of life.

My first day after the winter break. One of my profs was preaching (literally) Listen students, life is full of tradeoffs. The more you try to juggle around more chances are for your downfall. Choose! Studies or Fun. I was initially bemused and murmured is this the way to welcome back at campus. But seriously life does throw dilemmas at us. Like a son stuck between mom and wife and given an option to pick one. Dad-Mom’s anniversary or best friend’s wedding? Job continuation or giving CAT one more shot? Whether to use law against close ones? The question is how to deal with these quandaries. Some of you may try to optimize while some may choose one of the options. But the point the life wants to make is, it wants you to do a real time check on your ideals. How clear and passionate are you for them? So guys and gals welcome these ambiguous situations warmly. One who makes most of them makes a life.

Lemme borrow a famous line one of my friends uses, if life throws you lemons, make lemonade :)

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Life Unplugged- 3

Life is a battle. It’s not about garnering success but giving meaning to one’s life. You must be wondering what kind of meaning am blabbering. It’s justifying one’s existence on earth. This happens only when one’s skills and passion resonates with one’s job requirements. Very few end up with this rare but desirable combination. Some folks sacrifice this for family, some for moolah and some of us have learnt to compromise over the years. (Chalta hai kind of..). But few years down the line when one does a cross sectional analysis of one’s life holy s**t happens. You remember your colleague’s birthdays more than your family. You like being at office more than spending time with near ones. Career and job are almost at different ends of a string. You are not the same person you imagined to be some five years ago.

It hurts when you are forced to face this reality. You mind corroborates about your failure but heart still makes you optimistic about a screwed interview/horrible breakup (in short a lost battle). This dilemma must have been faced by many of you. Some would have made a fool of yourself by not accepting the fact while some, giving due importance to neurons, would have digested their defeat. The whole drama is to make life happy. Some do this with forged lies while some achieve this with naked truths. This leads to two species of humans i.e. bold and cowards. Critics may find the above statement too crude. But the bare fact is, this is how you confuse your mind by giving unwanted rationale. Recognizing one’s specie and working on it may help than pondering over why I am so.

I am forced to write about the impossible trinity mentioned in Life Unplugged-2. This covers life in all respects. Every human will eventually land up at certain corner of this triangle. Each corner is junction of two elements of this trinity. Suppose Lakhan is successful and raking in moolah. He may have either screwed his life (by burning the midnight oil) or may have been a victim of infidelity (compromising morals). The more Lakhan tries to run close to the third element the more away he gets from first one. But still I find spirit in life by seeing humans catching the last Virar local with balloons in their hand for their children. Some though crippled by life were trying to run faster than me at Jogger’s park. I loved losing that battle. Some slogging hard at office to sustain the marathon run called life. Your child giving you his/her piggy bank when s/he sees financial stress in the family. This indomitable spirit resurrects the faith in you every time the bi**h (life) tries to ebb you down. This helps us making the trinity possible though virtually.

Much depends upon the values humans assimilate over the time. Some argue that they are the derivatives of those 46 chromosomes. But I believe that these values are variables of time and environment. Grooming with a moron will certainly vanish the optimist out of you. Similarly a martinet mother will make an HMT/Titan out of you. Humans do evolve but how positively that needs to be looked out for. The more positive values they imbibe the more stronger they become mentally. Many confuse that this values harnessing process completes with your childhood but unknowingly it is an unending process. What these values do is they create humans like us of varied nature. This variety adds spice to life. But right now I need to catch a breath as I have landed in Delhi with MBA trimester three eagerly waiting to munch me :)
Cya folks and take care.